Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others?

by Jimi Jones

Remember when you first started blogging? Of course you do. It was when you were a wide-eyed newbie and wondered how difficult this craft would be and if you had what it required to find success.

You knew no one and maybe even felt a little shy about stepping into the blogophere, after all, this is a global stage. What will people think of me, no doubt you asked.

That very first post was your introduction to the party and it had to be perfect (you know what they say about first impressions). I recall my first post and how it took me about 7 or 8 hours to write what I can write today in 1 hour or less. You remember those days, breaking one of the first rules of blogging (over-thinking).

For the new blogger it can be a time of great uncertainty and during those times they may feel isolated, perhaps even looking around in hopes that someone will extend a helping hand or words of encouragement.

Experienced and successful bloggers who have advanced far beyond that stage speak a different language, using acronyms and buzz words that are completely foreign to the new blogger. It is the fish out of water syndrome for them.

My years of operating websites somewhat bridged that gap for me, but I have always been aware of how the new blogger feels, so I think it is something that we should keep in mind.

Like the offline life, you never forget where you came from, so reach back and lend a helping hand to those who are seeking to leave the old neighborhood and broaden their horizons.

I issue a challenge here today to the advanced bloggers.

Locate one new blogger each week and reach back, make a friend and offer some words of encouragement or even some advice. Yes, we are all busy and time is of the essence, but this may take an entire five minutes. :-)

Show a little love to those who may be sitting at their keyboards with their heads in their hands wondering how, what, when and why.

We all started with one post and one reader, before bugging our family and friends to read our offerings. People need to connect and have a sense of purpose.

There are many who do this regularly and without any expectation of anything in return and for them we are all grateful.

For others, join the effort and smooth the transition for someone you encounter.

As we advance in that steady march toward success and the ultimate goal, pause a step, turn around for just a moment and reach back for those behind you.

Keep Blogging!

  • Hi CaZ.
    Looking out is the thing to do, just seem right. Your story is a fine example of how it works. I am glad you will accept the challenge, although I get the feeling that this fits your style anyway. :-)
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • CaZ
    I was introduced to the concept of "paying forward" many years ago when I first started out as a professional writer. My mentor, a dear woman who has since left this world, did exactly what you are suggesting. She reached out to that beginner and gave me the confidence to put myself forward and provided a safe place for me to retreat to when the learning curve proved challenging.

    Wonderful challenge. I think that I shall take you up on it.
    .-= CaZ´s last blog ..What can Olympic Gold Teach You About Your Home Business? =-.
  • You know I support this totally Jimi - I struggled for so long on my own, I vowed to try to help others.

    I'd echo Jordan's point as well. As long as people are prepared to put the work in, then many of us can help. There's nothing more frustrating than offering advice, only to find the receivers don't actually action it, and spend their lives in a circle going "Great idea, I'll try that!"
    .-= Mike CJ´s last blog ..The One Million Book Giveaway =-.
  • Spot on Jimi,
    I have had several lend me a hand along the way. I have to remember though that I have to ask for help. It's not going to magically appear. ASK.. There is always someone out there willing to help. And on the flip side of the good comment points, no one is going to do it for me. If I ask for help I have to use it. Not run to the next guy ask the same and so on.. ACTion. Nice Job in keeping us aware. I am always one to help. I believe you can't keep it unless you give it away... (not money either folks..so don't ask! :) )
    .-= Lees Shizzle´s last blog ..Frolicking Friday ~/~ Let's Romp (visit and follow on twitter/facebook) =-.
  • Hey Lee.
    "can’t keep it unless you give it away…"
    True that, man. That's the way it works.
    The more you help, the more that comes to you. Too many have yet to figure that out.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • I've got only 2 months experience in this shindig, so I'm definitely a newbie - I'm slowly getting a hang off things but I never would've been even where I'm now without the help of others (weirdly, all my support has come from outside my niche and I'm getting more and more into that niche.... time for another site?).

    I'll take this advice though, although I may not know too much I still know more than someone who just set their blog up today (or that uses Blogger, oh the horror!!). So, I'll definitely reach out my hand and help some people out. Least I can do for the help I've been given. :)
  • Hi Fiona.
    You are certainly welcome to come by at any time. If you have questions on anything, I'll be more than happy to provide some assistance.

    You've touch on the very essence of blogging, people helping one another. You'll find that this is a great way to learn and gather momentum. The networking aspect is very valuable as it provides a nice system of support and motivation.

    Thanks for visiting and we'll see you again soon. :-)
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Hey Jimi,
    Thanks for your post. It's my first time here but was directed here by Lee's Shizzle.

    As a newbie, I've been blogging for only a few months now and would welcome any reaching back by more experienced bloggers to help me in what I'm doing. Always open to feedback.

    Adrian
    .-= Adrian Swinscoe´s last blog ..Increase Your Profits by “Pruning” Your Business =-.
  • Hello Adrian and Welcome!
    Glad you came by, Lee has a nice blog over there.
    It's great to see new bloggers on the scene and taking on the craft. I'll be paying you a visit, as a fellow blogger.
    It's good to meet you, man.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Thanks for the reminder,

    I think that supporting people any way possible should be a part of your lifestyle.
    Especially in the age of the internet where it has gotten so easy to lend a helping hand.
    But I also believe (since time's limited) that you should help those who will put it to good use. Some people need a lot of help, but they're not really using it to advance and still keep asking for more.
    .-= Mars Dorian´s last blog ..Why you need an edge =-.
  • Hi Mars!
    I could not agree more. We don't at all mind helping but folks need to take action on their part as well. Jordan Cooper and I were just having a conversation about that, how some want you to do it all FOR them. Huge difference.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Hi Jimi,
    I am a newbie, but I have people like you and others who have been a tremendous help to me. I have more people outside of my niche help me more so than those inside my niche. It doesn't bother me, it just makes me a better blogger. :)

    I appreciate your posts and your support.

    Take care!
    .-= Evelyn´s last blog ..What Exactly Is A Vegetarian Diet? =-.
  • Thanks for that, Evelyn.
    We're always happy to help out, for by doing so, one helps themselves as well.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Jimi, I'm definitely in your camp and never have a problem reaching out to those "behind" me in anything.

    The only concession I'd make towards those looking for the helping hand - please don't be disillusioned to expect those "in the know" somehow have a magic bullet formula.

    I get this attitude on occasion teaching my comedy classes, as some people expect after 5 weeks to learn a "system" to be able to write joke after joke worthy of being on an HBO special. Either that, or I'm going to do all the work for them in writing *their* act.

    I think this is the primary cause why some top-level people in any industry *don't* reach back often and offer help. It gets frustrating when you have the best intentions in mind, truly want to share your knowledge... then you get bombarded with questions that are either simply too vague or assume that there's some sure-fire secret step in doing anything.
    .-= Jordan Cooper´s last blog ..The No Money System =-.
  • You raise a great point, Jordan.
    There is a difference in between "helping" and "doing for" someone, the latter of which represents an unrealistic expectation.

    I'm glad you mentioned this because a highly successful blogger with a huge following probably sees a higher percentage of what you have described than most others.

    Most people are very appreciative of the efforts, but there are always those who want the moon delivered to them without having to put forth any effort whatsoever.

    Your comedy classes example is a very good one. Expecting you to write their material is like asking a Darren Rowse or Brian Clark to write your blog post and drive traffic for you.

    BTW - Why aren't you on HBO yet? I'll have to call them and threaten to cancel my cable subscription. :-)
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Jimi, instead of cancelling HBO (which I wouldn't 'cause I like most of their programs) - we can just work on building a platform for ourselves online that rivals it. Look at how many "YouTube stars" there are that are getting more viewers than some prime-time network shows... this is definitely still just the ground floor of the eventual 180 degree flip of media as we know it.
    .-= Jordan Cooper´s last blog ..The No Money System =-.
  • Now I know why you're not on HBO, you have another, and actually more modern plan. You're right, YouTube is huge now and that will be around for decades and beyond. The new media is going to change quite a bit in terms of how information is disseminated, and the old guard knows it.

    Along those lines, I think the small town newspapers are doing better than many larger cities where there is more modernized infrastructure and a means to shift to the new media platforms.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • I often think back to the early days of Twitter 12 and wonder where some of the team got to but the group seems to have died, which is a shame. But if that if the past that should not stop us reaching out and helping people and being available to assist. I don't profess to be an expert at anything but there's no0thing better than a good intentioned amateur :-)
    .-= Kevin Tea´s last blog ..News Round-up – What’s Hot, What’s Not =-.
  • Hi Kevin.
    No expert status needed for sure, that would put me out of the business. :-) Even someone that has been doing something for 2 weeks can reach back and help the person who just arrived.

    T12 was a springboard that launched an alliance of good folks like yourself, the core of which remains today.

    Sometimes I wonder why so many seem to miss the connection between real life and the online world. There is nothing different except things are digitized.

    Many think the business models and the way you interact with people are somehow different, not so.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
  • Hey Jimi. Love the idea of helping the new guys, since I'm one of them. :-) I know you practice what you preach. You were my inspiration when I started. I'm very thankful you reached out to me to offer help. Yeah, it's scary stepping out in front of everyone. It's much easier when you know someone is behind you to help. Thanks so much for your support.
  • My man Tim!
    Thanks for that, guy.
    The real reward is seeing folks like you take off and get after those dreams. You've been doing great, Tim and I'm happy for you.
    .-= Jimi Jones´s last blog ..Do You Ever Reach Back For The Others? =-.
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