A bit of both I suspect, times are a little tough for many and this brings out more negativity than we otherwise may be exposed to.
But hey, life’s too short to walk around in a fog of negativity which only serves to bring you down. I keep a positive outlook on life and make deliberate efforts to keep negativity away as much as possible.
Let’s have a closer look at some of the things we can do to remain above the fray.
1. Focus on What Matters Most
Whatever your life’s goals are, spend the vast majority of your time working to make them a reality. This simply means that you don’t really have the time or inclination to shoot the breeze with ole Joe down the street who is busier than hell doing nothing.
Develop a laser like focus on goals, family, business and other things that matter most to you. Make better, more positive choices in life by concentrating on where you’re trying to go.
Where do you want to be next year this time?
Can you get there with ole Joe down the street?
Forget about the negative things that others are spewing about. Unless it directly affects you and yours, move on.
2. Create Your Own Vision
Think positive and create a vision of the lifestyle you want to live. Positive thinking is powerful and keeps you focused on where you want to be in the future. There’s no time for those protracted woe-is-me moments. Instead, concentrate on the future that can be built starting today for you and your family.
3. Avoid Taking on OPS
Stop taking on other people’s sh** (OPS), they will let you have as much of it as you want; it relieves them of the burden. Substitute the word for “stuff” if you like, but you get my point.
One of the benefits of having goals and objectives in writing is they give you a compass by which to operate. You can clearly see what needs to be done to accomplish what you have set out to do. If OPS is not listed why are you considering getting off track?
4. Change Your Circle of Friends
Yeah, I know. This can be tough. Or can it?
Those friends that are holding you back or bringing you down are simply a drag on the new life you ARE creating. Face the facts, they drain your energy and get in the way of the mission to succeed. You have a couple of choices here, you can tell them straight up that this has become a problem for you, in which case you’ll really find out how much of a friend they are or you can honestly and truthfully be too busy to engage them.
Work on your business more and eliminate the time wasted on situations that make you uncomfortable.
5. Emulate the Successful
If there is someone in your niche or business industry that is successful, and there surely is, model yourself after them. Learn from them and how they made a successful lifestyle for themselves.
Remain true to who you are, don’t try to become that person, be yourself. But incorporate some of the techniques, attitudes and visions they used to find success.
The only difference in that person and you is the fact that they have done it already. You can do it too.
6. Learn to Deal with Negative Thoughts
You know as well as I that there will be times when your buttons will be pushed and some really negative thoughts will enter your mind. Quickly refocus on where you’re going and make every effort to avoid getting caught up in situations that are counterproductive to your mission. The majority of these situations are not worth your time and effort.
Let’s look at the example of the driver who dangerously cut you off in traffic. Is it worth flipping the bird and getting into a screaming match? They’ve already cut you off so that’s not going to change. You lived through it so move on. Get back to what really matters in life. There is an entire future waiting for you.
7. Laughter Is the Best Medicine
Confession: That’s not an original statement.
When things turn toward the negative, think of something funny that you’ve seen or experienced. Nothing chases away negativity like a good laugh or thought of laughter.
8. The Great Escape
Having a tough day? Here’s an old trick I’ve used for decades.
Take a 10 or 15 minute break, pull up some vacation photos and relive some of those memorable moments. Talk about switching to a positive attitude, this does it every time. It’s the instant virtual vacation that you can take with you anywhere. Load some of the best photos on your smart phone or iPad.
The bottom line is this, you work hard to be positive and move closer to that successful lifestyle you envision, and at times, you’ll have to work just as hard to avoid the negative side of things.
Leave negativity to the professional practitioners of the craft, they love it so let them corner the market for themselves.
You and I will continue to focus on tomorrow while creating a better lifestyle for ourselves and our families.
Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.