We all see it in some form or fashion daily. Negativity seems to be everywhere, well nearly everywhere these days. Has the world suddenly turned sour or have we become more aware?

A bit of both I suspect, times are a little tough for many and this brings out more negativity than we otherwise may be exposed to.

But hey, life’s too short to walk around in a fog of negativity which only serves to bring you down. I keep a positive outlook on life and make deliberate efforts to keep negativity away as much as possible.

Let’s have a closer look at some of the things we can do to remain above the fray.

1. Focus on What Matters Most

Whatever your life’s goals are, spend the vast majority of your time working to make them a reality. This simply means that you don’t really have the time or inclination to shoot the breeze with ole Joe down the street who is busier than hell doing nothing.

Develop a laser like focus on goals, family, business and other things that matter most to you. Make better, more positive choices in life by concentrating on where you’re trying to go.

Where do you want to be next year this time?

Can you get there with ole Joe down the street?

Forget about the negative things that others are spewing about. Unless it directly affects you and yours, move on.

2. Create Your Own Vision

Think positive and create a vision of the lifestyle you want to live. Positive thinking is powerful and keeps you focused on where you want to be in the future. There’s no time for those protracted woe-is-me moments. Instead, concentrate on the future that can be built starting today for you and your family.

3. Avoid Taking on OPS

Stop taking on other people’s sh** (OPS), they will let you have as much of it as you want; it relieves them of the burden. Substitute the word for “stuff” if you like, but you get my point.

One of the benefits of having goals and objectives in writing is they give you a compass by which to operate. You can clearly see what needs to be done to accomplish what you have set out to do. If OPS is not listed why are you considering getting off track?

4. Change Your Circle of Friends

Yeah, I know. This can be tough. Or can it?

Those friends that are holding you back or bringing you down are simply a drag on the new life you ARE creating. Face the facts, they drain your energy and get in the way of the mission to succeed.  You have a couple of choices here, you can tell them straight up that this has become a problem for you, in which case you’ll really find out how much of a friend they are or you can honestly and truthfully be too busy to engage them.

Work on your business more and eliminate the time wasted on situations that make you uncomfortable.

5. Emulate the Successful

If there is someone in your niche or business industry that is successful, and there surely is, model yourself after them. Learn from them and how they made a successful lifestyle for themselves.

Remain true to who you are, don’t try to become that person, be yourself. But incorporate some of the techniques, attitudes and visions they used to find success.

The only difference in that person and you is the fact that they have done it already. You can do it too.

6. Learn to Deal with Negative Thoughts

You know as well as I that there will be times when your buttons will be pushed and some really negative thoughts will enter your mind. Quickly refocus on where you’re going and make every effort to avoid getting caught up in situations that are counterproductive to your mission. The majority of these situations are not worth your time and effort.

Let’s look at the example of the driver who dangerously cut you off in traffic. Is it worth flipping the bird and getting into a screaming match? They’ve already cut you off so that’s not going to change. You lived through it so move on. Get back to what really matters in life. There is an entire future waiting for you.

7. Laughter Is the Best Medicine

Confession: That’s not an original statement. :-)

When things turn toward the negative, think of something funny that you’ve seen or experienced. Nothing chases away negativity like a good laugh or thought of laughter.

8. The Great Escape

Having a tough day? Here’s an old trick I’ve used for decades.

Take a 10 or 15 minute break, pull up some vacation photos and relive some of those memorable moments. Talk about switching to a positive attitude, this does it every time. It’s the instant virtual vacation that you can take with you anywhere. Load some of the best photos on your smart phone or iPad.

Wrapping Up

The bottom line is this, you work hard to be positive and move closer to that successful lifestyle you envision, and at times, you’ll have to work just as hard to avoid the negative side of things.

Leave negativity to the professional practitioners of the craft, they love it so let them corner the market for themselves.

You and I will continue to focus on tomorrow while creating a better lifestyle for ourselves and our families.

Stay productive!

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.

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16 Responses to 8 Ways to Beat Negativity and Maintain a Positive Attitude

  1. Kissie says:

    Oh man, Jimi, this is right up my alley! This is what gets and keeps me going.

    Did you say a “fog of negativity” … whoa, that’s heavy! No pun.

    I hate pity parties, I always decline invitations no matter how many times I throw them. Rather, attempt to throw them … they don’t do well because I never show up. I always find something else to do even if it’s watching one of my favorite comedies. Laughter works wonders for me.

    Never thought of the photos or memory lane trip but I have recently started to reincorporate yoga into my daily routine and that should definitely help me to refocus.

    FYI, I was commenting as I went along so the “laughter” remark came before I knew you wrote it.

    Great minds! Thanks, Jimi
    If I think it, I ink it. And OPS is not on ANY of my lists! (By the way, I’m taking the OPS with me … my kids will probably grow weary from hearing it too often … and they will until they learn to let it go.)
    Kissie´s last blog post ..Beware The Devil’s Hug

    • Jimi Jones says:

      Hey Kissie!
      Good to see ya.
      Yeah, I know you don’t do those pity parties, too busy with real stuff for real life. :-) Glad you enjoyed the post and by all means, help yourself to OPS, just be sure to let others keep their own. LOL

      See you round, and definitely out on Foursquare.

      Talk soon!

  2. Kissie says:

    Oh, and, see you on Foursquare. :-)
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  3. Evelyn says:

    Hey Jimi,

    Thanks for the tips! I need them.

    I try my best to stay away from negative people and attitudes. I’ve learned to stop taking on ops. ;)

    Take care,

    Evelyn
    Evelyn´s last blog post ..Become a Healthier You Series- Cleansing your Body

  4. Jimi,

    Awesome post! I love not taking OPS. because of that I have been thinking long and hard on #4 and resolved to make a couple changes with my circle of friends. Most are great and wonderful people, but a few…. meh

    It sucks to be aournd people that are users, abusers and negative. All they can do is drag you down into the muck and mire with them. Definitely going to take action on #4 because of that.

    Everything else you said makes perfect sense too. Being upbeat and positive is not only a hallmark of success, quite frankly it is simply more fun than being gloomy, depressed and negative.
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    • Jimi Jones says:

      Hey Steve!
      Sorry about your comment, just fished you out of the spammer which is quite strange.

      Anyhow, # 4 can be tough for some but it can also become a necessity if you want to make progress without dragging along the dead weight of negativity. I’ve shed a few friends over time, not that I’m any better than anyone else, but because some crap just doesn’t fit in with where I’m going.

      As you say, why get down in the muck and mire? Stay positive and enjoy the journey.
      Jimi Jones´s last blog post ..8 Ways to Beat Negativity and Maintain a Positive Attitude

  5. Kevin Tea says:

    I am a firm believer in Number Seven. My sense of humour – or what I call my sense of humour, others may have different ideas – has got me out of many dark places. Humour allows you to see how absurd some parts of life really are. Learn to laugh out loud and the shadows disappear.

    Some of the books that have influenced me have not been heavy psycho-tomes but the likes of Kurt Vonnegut and Tom Robbins who lift the slab on the crypt of life and let the light in through having an amusing take on what others take seriously.

    Would Hitler have come to power if his trousers had fallen down at an early rally? Discuss!
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  6. haha luv #4 You hit all the ways to stay focused and move past the drama.

    It’s to bad so many people let negative comments around them keep them from doing or staring something new.
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  7. Hi Jimi, I like your list! There will always be people out there with a negative attitude, and they will happily share the reasons why your plan doesn’t work. I agree it’s best to write your goals down, but then I don’t share them except with a select few. I agree that #4 is key – I periodically think about my friends and “fire” the ones who are a big drain on my energy without giving much in return. I’ve never tried #8 but that sounds like a good idea. I work at home so I can take a walk or watch a funny video when I get too frustrated.
    Jennifer Barry´s last blog post ..6 Reasons Not to Work So Hard

  8. Fran Aslam says:

    Hi JImi:

    Awesome post Jimi. I enjoyed reading it. List is so great every umber makes sense. OPS is simply applicable. #6 is extremely use able. #7 is extremely needed. #8 is so wonderful that I want to use it all the time.

    I am over whelmed, you spend lot of time and effort at your blog post and takes lots of thinking.

    Great content writing.

    Fran Aslam
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  9. Jimi Jones says:

    Hi Fran,
    glad you enjoyed the post. I use many of these frequently. :-)
    We have to do something to stay above the fray. LOL

    Good to see you.
    Jimi Jones´s last blog post ..Thought Patterns – How Do You Really Think

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